The Anatomy of Overwhelmed: How to Navigate High Pressure Leadership
Apr 28, 2026The Weight of Everything at Once
Do you ever get overwhelmed? If so, this is for you.
Earlier this week I spoke with an engineer at a global tech company. Her manager had recently told her there may be a restructure and she might need to look for another role. She described two things:
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How she felt: Overwhelmed. Like everything was uncertain at once.
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How she behaved: She had closed her laptop and disengaged from work. This was uncharacteristic, she knew it, and yet she could not stop it.
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The String and the Balloon
Here is what was actually happening. Every thought carries a feeling. Think of it as a string with a balloon at the end. That balloon represents the emotional weight of that one specific thought and nothing else.
On a normal day we carry multiple strings and balloons. We can distinguish between them and we know which feeling belongs to which thought.
But when her manager delivered that news, her brain generated more strings and balloons faster than she could separate them. When you can no longer tell which thought belongs to which feeling, you carry the weight of all of them at once. That is not weakness. That is how the brain works under pressure.
Separating the Weight
To help her navigate this, we did something simple: we separated them. One by one, we found each string and identified the balloon attached to it.
Some thoughts, once separated, carried feelings that were present but not heavy. For example: I have just moved to a new city. Does this mean I will have to move again? This was a real concern, but it was a manageable balloon on its own.
But one string carried a balloon significantly larger than the rest: Has my hard work over the past three years been wasted?
That was the one.
The High Cost of Overwhelm
Once we looked at that specific balloon clearly, we uncovered a dangerous loop. The behaviour her overwhelm was producing—closing down, disengaging, and doing the minimum—was the very thing most likely to make her fear come true.
The thought said: My hard work might be lost. The behaviour said: Let me make sure it is.
Once she could see that, her options changed. Her circumstances had not changed at all, but instead of responding to everything at once, she could respond to one specific, workable thing.
Seeing Clearly Enough to Navigate
She told me at the end of the session that she felt considerably calmer. Nothing about her external situation had shifted, but her internal map had.
What you can see clearly enough, you can navigate. When you stop carrying the collective weight of every "balloon" and start addressing the individual strings, you regain your ability to lead through the noise.
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